Why Are We so Loved by the Lovers that We Cannot Have?

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The Fairy Tale:

Once upon a time you fell in love. You got married. You stayed together forever. And you lived happily ever after.

The Truth:

wedding-322034_640Most of the time our true loves, our soul mates, our twin flames, come into our lives at the wrong times. For some the sacrifices that are needed to stay together can be done. For most the sacrifices that are literally “human sacrifices” are too costly and can leave a family, an empire and a legacy destroyed by the collateral damages demanded by love until the only choices are to let go, give up or carry on in secret.

Marriages often fall apart because partners “settle for” someone that they feel that they can have a life with, raise children with and settle down with … but often these “someones” are safe choices in a world where high risk and high stakes are part of truly living an authentic romantic life. Or, these relationships carry on via a romance “auto pilot” until one or both partners meets their soul mate or twin flame and then decisions have to be made … or not.

The Catalyst:

I was on the phone today with a girlfriend sharing this experience, which is an honest experience, because we are both women who are not afraid of our sexual appetites, nor are we afraid of what our hearts want, but cannot have. This is the reality of the sex life of the single woman these days. And since most of our choices include a population of men who have been hopelessly damaged by the unreasonable expectations created by the porn industry … well … girls like us have to become secret sexual “mavericks” lest our friends and neighbors diminish our education, intellect and talent with a single world – SLUT.

The Twist:

In this world of newly minted sexual standards exacerbated by readily available pornography and cheap “camera girls” who will do anything for a buck we are both grateful for the men that we can “have” and especially for the men that we can’t, because of circumstances, because invariably these men that are so vigorously unattainable, love us better than the ones that we can have without too much of a fuss. They put us on pedestals, make us Muses and overall appreciate every breath that we take, while our stable, comfortable relationships lead to us being taken for granted. Oh the paradox.

The Compromise:

Throughout my life I have struggled to be happy with the men that I have “settled for” and those relationships have worked, but they always ended.

The Irony:

I firmly believe that my relationship with “the one that I cannot have” will be my longest relationship founded on unconditional love in this lifetime.

My Take:

Sometimes knowing who your twin flame is without any doubt is a pain in the ass.

background-313544_640My Solution:

I do not hesitate to love with an open heart. And I keep my mouth shut about everything else.

My Current State of Affairs:

My man knows he’s not my twin flame and when he takes me for granted … I remind him of it… and that little tinge of jealousy makes our sex that much spicier. Sure it’s something I can live with. But, I’m a resilient realist. LOL #realness

For sensitive, real intuitive advice on romance and twin flame relationships please click HERE.

ABOUT MARIE BARGAS:

mariecrop1Los Angeles Celebrity Psychic Marie Bargas lives and works among the stars and celebrities.  She is a clairvoyant, medium and energy healer who incorporates tarot, pendulum divination,  chakra cleansing and balancing, sound healing, house cleansing, yoga and meditation into her work and her life as a mystic, yogini and spell crafter. Best known as a successful “bride maker,” Marie specializes in love, romance and finding true love. She began her career as an expert on “Entertainment Tonight,” made appearances on the Fine Living Network and was featured on the Love and Sex Report with Millionaire Matchmaker – Patti Stanger and most recently on NBC’s “EXTRA.” She is currently the Managing Editor of the ezine ENTERTAINMENT 2morrow and the co-host of MAGICK LAB ACADEMY on the SOC Radio network alongside pop culture guru, Tony Sokol.. Marie has also joined the team of researchers, psychic mediums and paranormal experts on the ongoing “Horsefly Chronicles Investigations” based upon the best selling book, “The Horsefly Chronicles: A Demonic Haunting: Based on a true story by Phil Siracusa,” alongside Phil and her bestie Julia Siracusa. And Marie is the event publicist for NATIONAL GHOST HUNTING DAY 2017,  the world’s largest ghost hunt.

To follow Marie on facebook on her page THE HOLLYWOOD WITCH click HERE.

 

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