Empath’s Guide to Sanity 2017

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From the Merriam Webster Dictionary:

Empathy

2:     the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner; also :  the capacity for this

The Basics

  • Every living thing is empathic to some extent because empathy is one of the oldest forms of non-verbal communication. Scientists speculate that humans or “Homo Erectus” started talking about 100,000 years ago, but they can’t decide if language began as soon as the human brain became big enough, or if it developed slowly over time.
  • If you have a pet chances are that you have developed better empathic skills than the typical non-pet owner because animals are better empaths than humans and pets have a tendency to “teach” their owners a thing or two.
  • You are most empathic when you are a baby before you say your first words. The ability then fades because language is used as a replacement but it does not go away and it can be enhanced through meditation.
  • People who have a connection to plants and nature also tend to be more empathic.  While some literally “talk” to their plants to help them grow, others naturally give their plants energy and attention and the difference in plant growth is tangible.
  • Psychics and mediums can be painfully empathic as a side effect of their ability to communicate with disembodied spirits, elementals, angels, demons, fairies, etc …

The Challenges

While the ability to communicate non-verbally with everything can be a gift, the inability to “turn it off” at will can be maddening and at the very least uncomfortable. In my case I was already super tense after the volleys between Trump and Kim Jong Un that I had a persistent ache in the pit of my stomach. But after the riots in Charlottesville I literally felt like I was about to throw up for days. I felt the hodge podge of fear, despair and rage in waves and I had to force myself to not look at the news. Meanwhile, places that had large concentrations of people like the grocery store, Walmart, or the mall were stricly off limits until things settled down on the surface.

Feeling Overwhelmed:  Feelings of being overcome or overwhelmed literally came out of the blue. News sites showed me what I was reacting to and that helped me sort out my true feelings from what emotions I was being bombarded with.

Upset Stomach:  The stomach is where most people carry their emotions. It is no coincidence that we call our most important feelings as “a gut feeling.” My gut was suffering under the weight of the public emotional outpouring of reactions to a possible nuclear war and the threat of rampant racism.

Nausea: As tensions mounted I literally felt like I was having chronic morning sickness. It took a day for me to get over feeling like I wanted to vomit every hour.

Anxiety and Depression: As a result of a combination of all the symptoms mentioned above, I began to get anxious and depressed.

Chronic Fatigue: My body reacted by slowing down and the best medicine for me was to nap for hours in order to “make it go away” because in sleep and through dreams I was able to release a lot of psychic tension.

Sharing What I’ve Learned

Just as the madness was breaking out on the newsfeeds I saw a lot of ads for classes and I was astonished at the amount of woo and silliness people were trying to push on suffering empaths around the globe. So, I decided that I would freely share what I do from day to day to cope with the chaos.

Coping Measures

  • Feeling Overwhelmed/Grounding: I am fortunate to live in a pretty little witchy house at the foot of the mountains. Every morning before I water my little potted patio garden filled with herbs and roses I take off my shoes. I spend a lot of my time barefoot in the garden which allows my tension to be released through the bottoms of my feet. I refocus my attention on my plants and ask them to take away my tension. During the worst times I put my hands on my little ficus tree and imagine my energy going down through the trunk of to tree into the Earth.

 

  • Upset Stomach & Nausea/Ginger Everything:  While I wish I had enough time to peel, crush and grind fresh ginger root into a tea every day, I’m far too busy for that. Making fresh ginger tea is a luxury, so I stock up on ginger ale, ginger chews (candy) and ginger snaps (my favorite cookie) so I have something quick and easy to help me calm my stomach and alleviate my nausea.

 

  • My friends and favorite tv shows as well as meditation/Anxiety and Depression:  I meditate and do mantra at least 20 minutes every day. Sometimes I may get lost in it for up to an hour because being in alpha state feels great. However, there is nothing like a convo with a good friend or an episode of “Game of Thrones” to pull me out of a funk. John Oliver has been good for my soul. And frankly, I miss Jon Stewart. Jon Stewart was my comedy shaman who cured all ills.

 

  • Naps and Early Bed Times/Chronic Fatigue: When all else failed I am sooooo grateful to be working primarily from home. I have the luxury of taking a nap whenever I feel the need. When I am working outside of my domestic sanctuary of peace and chocolate I come home with take out, or nuke an organic microwave dinner and drop off to sleep no matter who early it is.

 

Emergency Empath Hacks

  • Wearing Amber and Black Tourmaline jewelry to seal up my aura.
  • Taking cleansing baths in epsom salts and baking soda.
  • Playing my favorite music to raise the vibe and drown out everything else. (Amy Winehouse has saved my life.)

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Coping with the Challenges of the Venus Retrograde: It’s not all about Love. Venus is also the Goddess of Cash.

14212004_10154497635930842_4731063091581144274_nAs many of you know, I am a Kashmir Shaivist. My daily practice includes mantra and mediation. Before then I studied various forms of a occultism and witchery and think of myself as a witch when the room demands a “broom.” Venus Retrograde has given me a unique set of challenges because I am a triple Libra, which means that Venus is all over my astrological chart. In preparation I had the pleasure of interviewing astrologer James David Wade – the Pisces Prince, who offered me some very good insights on my weekly radio show  with Tony Sokol , Magick Lab Academy on the SOC Radio Network. He cautioned me that reevaluating my relationships would be bumpy but necessary. Likewise, Venus, the Goddess of Cash Flow would also challenge me to think outside the box in order to maintain the momentum that began with my prediction that “Moonlight” would win best picture on the EXTRA Weekend Edition.

For a Hindu Laxshmi is the “go-to” Goddess of Prosperity and Fortune. After meditating upon her for a time before the Venus Retrograde I was advised to clean up my house from top to bottom in order to get my money mojo back which had been slacking despite the fact that I’ve got at least 7 current stories including Moi on Google News. What I discovered during a 3 day marathon of cleaning is that my puppy, the fabulous Vampire Chihuahua, Fifi, had created a doggy den of iniquity with dirty underwear and pee right underneath my bed! Once I found this energetic black hole in my bedroom the energy shifted and things got back to normal.  When I mentioned this to James he congratulated me on following the advice that he was ready to give me himself, which was clean up – EVERYTHING.

But, cleaning was not enough. Unknown to many people outside Hinduism who worship and invoke Laxshmi, she has an older sister/twin who is also the Goddess of Poverty and Loss. Alaxshmi travels with her sister and on some occasions balances the boon granted by Laxshmi with tragedy that evens the karmic score almost instantaneously. Remember the stories of the Lottery Winners who lose their spouses and eventually all their money through spending and excess?  For me that is a good example of the saying, “The Goddess giveth and the Goddess taketh away.” So, the first thing I did before doing my 3 day marathon cleaning for Laxshmi was erect an outdoor altar to Alaxshmi who in many traditions is Laxshmi’s owl.

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I created this altar for Alaxshmi right outside our front door so that when I invoke Laxshmi her sister has an equally beautiful altar OUTSIDE our house which she can relax and enjoy so that poverty stays outside which prosperity and good fortune come inside to an immaculate place. Alaxshmi likes things that are sour and spicy so I gave her lemons and red chilis. 3 days after I made Alaxshmi her own altar, my little witchy house was booked as a location for  the tv show, “Crime Watch Daily,” and I even got to re-enact the role of Rachel Lee, a master criminal gypsy con artist. Even so, Laxshmi continues to challenge me to push myself far outside of my comfort zone and I now have a new live chat show on the North American Psychic and Paranormal Network.

To read my article in the Bodhi Tree Blog click HERE.

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You see, I foolishly believed that since I’m very happy in my current relationship that the worst part of Venus Retrograde would be deflecting the unwanted advances of an ex or two and sorting out relationship issues. What has emerged is the re-evaluation and restructuring of my business. I no longer do readings at Mystic Journey Bookstore because sadly it now takes me 2 hours to get there in traffic and possibly another 2 1/2 hours to get home. I am also hesitant to join another online psychic talk line because I’m over giving the lion’s share of my earnings over while they “decide” how much of my hard earned money I deserve to get for myself. Meanwhile, I noticed that one psychic line had my photo used on every single one of their promos, but I had unwittingly signed over the rights to my image. So, although my face was the cornerstone of a huge campaign I got nothing … zero … The seasoned PR girl in me was gnashing her teeth at how much I just “gave away.” Today, I am building my business online from my own home studio which I have outfitted with some really good equipment. I make my own promo videos, book my own photo shoots, program my own shows and bank 98% of my take on readings. I have to admit that doing this all on my own is scary right now, but Laxshmi has pushed me towards being more independent and so I bow to her and surrender my fate. Jai Laxshmi. Jai Alaxshmi. Jai Shakti. You have taught me, “Shakti gives no fucks.”

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Sometimes Isolation is Best Way to Achieve Your “Authentic” Vibration

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Being an empath and a psychic in today’s chaotic mess of a world has challenges all it’s own. I never really examined them out of necessity because for 8 years I lived with a hoarder (my ex boyfriend) and had a brief stint with an OCD ( room mate).  In order to survive the energies I had to go into a state of denial just to be able to achieve some level of happiness and that all by itself if a skill.  I can make myself happy and positive even in the midst of extreme, prolonged adversity.  But … the energy that it takes to “handle” the barrage of negative overload was so intense that my magick and manifestation skills appeared to be below par. And yet, I was spending hours meditating. Today I realize that when ALL my energies are channeled in one direction and not spread out thin in order to maintain some semblance of “balance,” I can literally manifest whatever I want … but it takes a conscious effort not to waste precious energy on just “keeping it together.”

mural-1347673_960_720For the past two weeks I’ve been consistently letting go of things and people that are not conducive to the type of energy that I want which is strong, free flowing and self-renewing. Moving forced me to throw away a lot of things that I didn’t need. And, financial concerns forced me to cut loose projects and people that appear to be a waste of time with little or no pay off.  There are opportunities and then there are traps that appear as opportunities.  Right now I have no interest in wasting my precious time on traps.

Even good intentions can be squandered by a lack of focus and concentration. And, the truth is I have always had the focus of a laser beam and some people don’t appreciate that until it’s far too late.

After making some major changes that incurred the wrath of people who were either not getting what they wanted from me … or from people who thought that they could “control” me in order to make me “better,” I’ve learned that I am my own guru. Seriously, when I’m free from the opinions, hectic thoughts and random fears of people, I have an internal compass that is very accurate. Furthermore, I think that I have a far better grasp on reality than the people who thought that they knew better. The difference that made them think that I was stupid or delusional is the fact that I didn’t worry or fret which they saw as being “responsible,” but which I see as being a waste. I fix problems … that takes energy … worrying about them and blaming other people takes away from the energy that can be used to fix or cure something.  Once again my laser focus has made me misunderstood, but at this point I don’t care.

This morning I’m vibrating as myself … I feel healthy … confident … and ready to tackle the day without the anxiety that I have discovered that I can absorb from anxious people. By myself I’m calm, cool and collected and I like that.

 

 

 

Mercury Retrograde in Virgo – If You Dig Deep Enough You May Strike Gold – Spiritual Response Therapy at the Crystal Matrix in Atwater Village

69508_crystal_matrix_los_angelesThe day before yesterday I had the unexpected opportunity participate in a Spiritual Response Therapy Session facilitated by Ora B. Nance Woodley at the Crystal Matrix in Atwater Village in Los Angeles. I had come to the shop on a whim on the first day of Mercury Retrograde to find a safe haven from the chaos and ended up staying for the evening session determined to release a lot of energetic junk. Ora and I connected on a psychic to psychic level and before I knew it, I just wanted to hug her for being so kind and so open.

According to the session description,

Spiritual Response Therapy(SRT)gets to the very root of the energetic program causing your specific issue. Using special charts and a pendulum, Minis. Ora B Nance-Woodley finds the patterns of negative energy, whether in past, present or future lives and, through Higher Self, removes or “clears” this energy from your Akashic Records, releasing pain and restoring harmony. The effect of this work is amazingly profound. The negative energy you held on an event is cleared and this can produce amazing changes in your life.

Unlike the rest of the participants I had not preregistered, so she did not have 24 hours to “clear” me before I got there. But, in the short time before the class she dedicated herself to starting the process so I could join in. In the past month a move following a break-up and the end of the harassment from a very vindictive internet troll were just a few of the things that reportedly gave me an aura with the look of the spots on a Dalmatian. I was tired, burnt out and feeling unsure of myself even though my life was just beginning.

Using the technique of spinning a pendulum combined with conversation and her own healing gifts, Ora was able to clear away a lot of the blockages that were deep rooted in my energy that could have taken weeks of cleansing baths to remove. Personally, I did not feel that I had that much time to “get it together” so I was grateful for the opportunity. And what transpired is that this beautiful stranger was able to find and understand a deep seated hurt that happened while I was still in the womb and carefully extract the spiritual “splinter” like any good mom.

Suddenly, my joy returned like an absent lover and I was able to smile again. Since then Mercury has had its way with me. Oh dear, transportation, miscommunication and short tempers could have frozen me in a state of panic. But, I’ve managed to remain calm and kind. Despite the challenges my response is to relax, become more fluid and just roll with the punches. I was the only one in the group who did not cry when I released. Instead I smiled and it felt good to feel that warmth spreading through me like the rising sun on an Autumn day.

My daily challenge is to create and maintain a state of joy. And with Mercury causing mishaps in scheduling and deliveries it’s easy to appear irresponsible when the truth is sometimes circumstances are awry. And I haven’t been myself because the trauma of a break-up AND moving is intense. Tonight, I can give myself permission to rest, really rest.

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