The Basis of a Good Love Spell

candles-2000135_640Every year I am asked by many clients to do love spells. Many are looking to recover lost loves.  As we go into Venus Retrograde the energies are ripe for a return to love, but many are still frustrated because Karma refuses to allow a reunion until karmic debts are paid.  In all of my spell work I begin by educating my clients on the mechanics of Karma because karmic debt is often a reason why a spell will not work or not work completely.

I teach my people to think of Karma as a bank. And, like a bank if a “Karmic Account” is overdrawn during a working then there are “fees and penalties.”  The best way to remedy this imbalance is to continue to make “Karmic Deposits” BEFORE a work is attempted.  I often suggest that my clients do random acts of kindness, donate clothes and food to the poor, help a stranger unconditionally, volunteer at a children’s hospital, etc … and dedicate those acts of charity to whatever deity or energy we are asking for assistance.

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Although the magick that I teach is non-secular  (Magick Lab Academy), I personally work with Angels and Devas because these are the energies that I connect to the most. When working on Love I often connect to the Hindu Goddess of Love AND Devotion (Parvati) and the ArchAngels Gabriel (the Moon/Messenger) and Hanael the ArchAngel of Love. Raphael is likewise the ArchAngel of Happy Meetings and Happy Marriages.  In every work I seek to balance the energies of the Divine Masculine and the Divine Feminine in order to effect a significant change.  In my experience Love is an energy that needs to be nurtured like a seed on it’s way into blossoming into a flower.

But, before any work is done Karma must be addressed so we can see what sort of measurable effects can be expected without any major “Karmic Blowback.”  My solution to this is to ask my clients to write a list of everything that they want in a partner. Next, anything on that list that they cannot give to a partner themselves they have to cross off.  The basis for this is that you cannot ask for anything that you cannot give. Many of you will recognize this from “The Law of Attraction.” Once this list is completed and incorporated into the spell along with reasonable “Karmic Deposits” then and only then can a love spell be worked to it’s maximum potential.

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Magick is an energetic “messenger” and in love these messages can and should be delivered straight to the heart. The issue I have with forcing someone to love against their will is a violation of their freedom of choice. Instead I encourage my clients to leave the option to “choose” open in order to spare themselves the Karmic Debt incurred by violating someone’s free will.  In most cases a message of Love delivered to the heart with heart felt sincerity is enough to produce the desired results.  I do not encourage anyone to force the situation, but to make themselves more lovable which is the better way.

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Kali’s Way: Decapitate the Demon and Wear its Head as an Accessory

320px-kaliposter1940sKali, the Hindu Dark Goddess of Time and Destruction is startling figure of carnage. The gruesome necklace of heads around her neck drips blood onto her bare breasts as she stands poised for battle or for a carnal embrace. In the West many misinterpret those heads as human. But in actuality they are the heads of demons that she has slain. Her unabashed sense of self has always had a great appeal, especially nowadays to a new generation of women who refuse to be silenced, held back or held down. But in my case, my peers still struggle to rein me in every now and then when I can’t contain my righteous anger. Throughout my own life I have suffered abuse first as a child and later as an adult. But today abuse seems to have come out of the closet and become the standard bearer for the Patriarchy as it begins to struggle in very public death throes around the world. Remember  the remark about “pussy grabbing” that was almost dismissed as “locker room talk?” This is the Patriarchal tactic of invoking the myth that women actually want to be “pussy grabbed” by rich, entitled white men. As I recall it didn’t go over well, did it?

Mea culpa. When Fox News in Chicago reported that Angela Ferguson grabbed a beer stein and fought off her attacker (rapist)  I experienced a new kind of “feels” that I identify as “power.”

“When I kept hitting him, hitting him, he wouldn’t give up. He wouldn’t give up. I kept beating him, and seen blood everywhere. They say he had to have three surgeries on his head,” Ferguson said.

Somehow Ferguson pushed Grice out of her room, but she said he broke the door down and got back in. That’s when she grabbed a crowbar from under her bed and fought him off once and for all.

I’ve been molested and so let me make something perfectly clear, if I had  the opportunity to fight off my molester with a crow bar I may have suffered more physical harm, but the emotional toll would have been far less. In fact if I had the opportunity to bash in his head in self defense I guarantee you that I would have slept soundly that night. Because I’m a woman I already know that some of you are cringing with distaste at my confession, but I’d like to tell my sisters out there who have been raped or molested that wanting to beat down the ass of your rapist/attacker is perfectly normal. And please don’t tell me that being molested doesn’t warrant a proper head bashing. It’s not going to work.

In fact it’s much healthier if you embrace it and accept it instead of internalizing some missed placed guilt over it being “your fault.” This is what I identify as “Decapitating the Demons.” Accept the fact that you want blood, revenge and retribution. Do something pro-active. Buy a gun and learn how to use it responsibly. Take a class in martial arts and self defense. Put cameras up around your home. Carry a stun gun or pepper spray  in your purse. Don’t just roll over and take it. You don’t have to accept the cultural brainwashing that we must submit to being victims in order to be “good” people. I would not “turn the other cheek” if a rapist’s cock was being shoved up my ass. Would you?

I have my own “necklace of demon heads” and I add a new one every couple of years. I’mhead not proud of it, but I’m also not ashamed of it. It is there to remind me that I cannot rely on someone else, the police, the government a boyfriend or even a stranger to protect me. And there’s something more. In Kali’s hand she holds her newest severed head without shame, and without malice. She just holds it and we can see it’s frightened eyes. Think of it as a “deterrent.”

Listen carefully now.

It’s okay for people to know that you are not someone who is going to be an easy target, a willing victim or a passive plaything for their perverse enjoyment. You don’t have to roll over every single time and “play dead” just to “play nice.” If someone repeatedly insists on attacking you for no other reason than they enjoy it, or it fulfills some warped psychological need, then  you don’t have to allow them to get bored with you and move on. You are allowed to “sever their head.” Read the laws. Follow the rules … but take that head and hold it in your hand for all to see.

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Don’t Give in to Hate

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As we count down to one of the most hotly contested elections in American History, please try to resist the temptation to give in to hate. People on all sides are passionate and vocal about their choices to the point that it has separated families, ended relationships and motivated outbursts of violence throughout the country.

Hate is a very powerful emotion that the media has mastered manipulating with the artful use of words, photos and videos created to trigger specific emotional buttons in everyone across the board. In reality these past 6 months have been an epic experiment to see just how easily your buttons can get pushed … nothing more.

The day after the election, WE, the ordinary folk of the United States will have to pick up the pieces of our lives, our relationships, our jobs and anything and everything that has been impacted and try to move on peacefully and productively.

 

 

 

 

Why Are We so Loved by the Lovers that We Cannot Have?

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The Fairy Tale:

Once upon a time you fell in love. You got married. You stayed together forever. And you lived happily ever after.

The Truth:

wedding-322034_640Most of the time our true loves, our soul mates, our twin flames, come into our lives at the wrong times. For some the sacrifices that are needed to stay together can be done. For most the sacrifices that are literally “human sacrifices” are too costly and can leave a family, an empire and a legacy destroyed by the collateral damages demanded by love until the only choices are to let go, give up or carry on in secret.

Marriages often fall apart because partners “settle for” someone that they feel that they can have a life with, raise children with and settle down with … but often these “someones” are safe choices in a world where high risk and high stakes are part of truly living an authentic romantic life. Or, these relationships carry on via a romance “auto pilot” until one or both partners meets their soul mate or twin flame and then decisions have to be made … or not.

The Catalyst:

I was on the phone today with a girlfriend sharing this experience, which is an honest experience, because we are both women who are not afraid of our sexual appetites, nor are we afraid of what our hearts want, but cannot have. This is the reality of the sex life of the single woman these days. And since most of our choices include a population of men who have been hopelessly damaged by the unreasonable expectations created by the porn industry … well … girls like us have to become secret sexual “mavericks” lest our friends and neighbors diminish our education, intellect and talent with a single world – SLUT.

The Twist:

 

In this world of newly minted sexual standards exacerbated by readily available pornography and cheap “camera girls” who will do anything for a buck we are both grateful for the men that we can “have” and especially for the men that we can’t, because of circumstances, because invariably these men that are so vigorously unattainable, love us better than the ones that we can have without too much of a fuss. They put us on pedestals, make us Muses and overall appreciate every breath that we take, while our stable, comfortable relationships lead to us being taken for granted. Oh the paradox.

The Compromise:

Throughout my life I have struggled to be happy with the men that I have “settled for” and those relationships have worked, but they always ended.

The Irony:

I firmly believe that my relationship with “the one that I cannot have” will be my longest relationship founded on unconditional love in this lifetime.

My Take:

Sometimes knowing who your twin flame is without any doubt is a pain in the ass.

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I do not hesitate to love with an open heart. And I keep my mouth shut about everything else.

My Current State of Affairs:

My man knows he’s not my twin flame and when he takes me for granted … I remind him of it… and that little tinge of jealousy makes our sex that much spicier. Sure it’s something I can live with. But, I’m a resilient realist. LOL #realness

 

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