Empath’s Guide to Sanity 2017

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From the Merriam Webster Dictionary:

Empathy

2:     the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner; also :  the capacity for this

The Basics

  • Every living thing is empathic to some extent because empathy is one of the oldest forms of non-verbal communication. Scientists speculate that humans or “Homo Erectus” started talking about 100,000 years ago, but they can’t decide if language began as soon as the human brain became big enough, or if it developed slowly over time.
  • If you have a pet chances are that you have developed better empathic skills than the typical non-pet owner because animals are better empaths than humans and pets have a tendency to “teach” their owners a thing or two.
  • You are most empathic when you are a baby before you say your first words. The ability then fades because language is used as a replacement but it does not go away and it can be enhanced through meditation.
  • People who have a connection to plants and nature also tend to be more empathic.  While some literally “talk” to their plants to help them grow, others naturally give their plants energy and attention and the difference in plant growth is tangible.
  • Psychics and mediums can be painfully empathic as a side effect of their ability to communicate with disembodied spirits, elementals, angels, demons, fairies, etc …

The Challenges

While the ability to communicate non-verbally with everything can be a gift, the inability to “turn it off” at will can be maddening and at the very least uncomfortable. In my case I was already super tense after the volleys between Trump and Kim Jong Un that I had a persistent ache in the pit of my stomach. But after the riots in Charlottesville I literally felt like I was about to throw up for days. I felt the hodge podge of fear, despair and rage in waves and I had to force myself to not look at the news. Meanwhile, places that had large concentrations of people like the grocery store, Walmart, or the mall were stricly off limits until things settled down on the surface.

Feeling Overwhelmed:  Feelings of being overcome or overwhelmed literally came out of the blue. News sites showed me what I was reacting to and that helped me sort out my true feelings from what emotions I was being bombarded with.

Upset Stomach:  The stomach is where most people carry their emotions. It is no coincidence that we call our most important feelings as “a gut feeling.” My gut was suffering under the weight of the public emotional outpouring of reactions to a possible nuclear war and the threat of rampant racism.

Nausea: As tensions mounted I literally felt like I was having chronic morning sickness. It took a day for me to get over feeling like I wanted to vomit every hour.

Anxiety and Depression: As a result of a combination of all the symptoms mentioned above, I began to get anxious and depressed.

Chronic Fatigue: My body reacted by slowing down and the best medicine for me was to nap for hours in order to “make it go away” because in sleep and through dreams I was able to release a lot of psychic tension.

Sharing What I’ve Learned

Just as the madness was breaking out on the newsfeeds I saw a lot of ads for classes and I was astonished at the amount of woo and silliness people were trying to push on suffering empaths around the globe. So, I decided that I would freely share what I do from day to day to cope with the chaos.

Coping Measures

  • Feeling Overwhelmed/Grounding: I am fortunate to live in a pretty little witchy house at the foot of the mountains. Every morning before I water my little potted patio garden filled with herbs and roses I take off my shoes. I spend a lot of my time barefoot in the garden which allows my tension to be released through the bottoms of my feet. I refocus my attention on my plants and ask them to take away my tension. During the worst times I put my hands on my little ficus tree and imagine my energy going down through the trunk of to tree into the Earth.

 

  • Upset Stomach & Nausea/Ginger Everything:  While I wish I had enough time to peel, crush and grind fresh ginger root into a tea every day, I’m far too busy for that. Making fresh ginger tea is a luxury, so I stock up on ginger ale, ginger chews (candy) and ginger snaps (my favorite cookie) so I have something quick and easy to help me calm my stomach and alleviate my nausea.

 

  • My friends and favorite tv shows as well as meditation/Anxiety and Depression:  I meditate and do mantra at least 20 minutes every day. Sometimes I may get lost in it for up to an hour because being in alpha state feels great. However, there is nothing like a convo with a good friend or an episode of “Game of Thrones” to pull me out of a funk. John Oliver has been good for my soul. And frankly, I miss Jon Stewart. Jon Stewart was my comedy shaman who cured all ills.

 

  • Naps and Early Bed Times/Chronic Fatigue: When all else failed I am sooooo grateful to be working primarily from home. I have the luxury of taking a nap whenever I feel the need. When I am working outside of my domestic sanctuary of peace and chocolate I come home with take out, or nuke an organic microwave dinner and drop off to sleep no matter who early it is.

 

Emergency Empath Hacks

  • Wearing Amber and Black Tourmaline jewelry to seal up my aura.
  • Taking cleansing baths in epsom salts and baking soda.
  • Playing my favorite music to raise the vibe and drown out everything else. (Amy Winehouse has saved my life.)

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Managing the Chaos Between 2 Eclipses

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Many of you are experiencing a strange combination of fear and heightened anxiety that began with the penumbral eclipse on February 10, 2017. Eclipses usually signal endings or beginnings and so some of you are in shock as some things, jobs, possessions and relationships have been “taken away.” In the wake of those losses some of you are confused, hurt and in shock. It’s alright. You are not alone. In fact there are more people having the same kinds of experiences. So let go of the idea that these radical changes are happening only to you.

While some astrologers have advised you to focus on more grounding others have recommended that you stay loose and fluid. In my case I have had to ground AND become more flexible depending upon the situation and believe me, there have been several.  The most obvious one is the landfall of the tropical storm – Lucifer.  I live in the Los Angeles area at the base of the mountains.  As the water poured off the mountain and ran down the streets past our tiny cottage in torrents our power and internet flickered off an on like blinking Christmas lights.  Outside trees were being uprooted and toppled like match sticks. Inside me and my chihuahua Fifi weathered the storm by candle light and I caught up with some reading.

What I have discovered is that the best way to manage this chaos is to connect with the element of my astrological sign.  Each sign of the zodiac is governed by an element.

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In my case I am a triple Libra. Libra is governed by the element of air. As the winds outside my window lashed the trees and scattered the rain, I connected with the element of air and put my intent in that element to remove my confusion, doubt and anxiety. Today as the storm has lifted, if only for a few hours, I feel calm, clear and refreshed, like a valley that has had the pollutants in the Air purified by a raging storm. The other air signs are Gemini and Aquarius.

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The water signs: Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces have been experiencing heavy emotional ups and downs. Likewise, if water is featured strongly in your chart you too may be experiencing sudden outbursts of tears or resurfacing emotions that you thought had healed long ago. My advice is to meditate on the image of a calm pool of water. Mastery of the main element connected to you will give you clarity. Remember, the waters in a pond can be murky if the water is stirred, but clear when the water is still and the debris is allowed to sink to the bottom.  Allow your emotional, mental and physical “debris” to sink. Meditation is a great way to do that.

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The fire signs: Leo, Aries and Sagittarius seem to be experiencing trans-formative incidents of sudden clarity about a situation, freedom from situations that bind them and better health. Allow your fires to burn brightly. Fire gives light or “clarity.” Fire burns away trash or debris. Fire can reignite your life force and give you back the vigor that you thought that you may have lost. Like the mythical phoenix, allow yourself to be reborn as you rise from your own ashes. Be more aware of your solar plexus, which correlates to the element of fire and be aware of what you feel in that chakra. If you are suffering from too much heartburn drink plenty of aloe vera juice and watch your diet. The discomfort will pass.

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The earth signs: Virgo, Capricorn and Taurus seem to be experiencing major changes in the material world.  I’m not just talking about wealth and prosperity, but your body itself which is made up of the elements of Mother Earth. For you, remember that the Earth is a fertile planet. Whatever you may have lost can bloom again, in a better and more nourishing “soil” if you take better care of your body, mind and spirit which are the fertile grounds from which your dreams and aspirations can grow and bloom.  Meditation with crystals, any crystals will replace any uncertainty with security.

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The Basis of a Good Love Spell

candles-2000135_640Every year I am asked by many clients to do love spells. Many are looking to recover lost loves.  As we go into Venus Retrograde the energies are ripe for a return to love, but many are still frustrated because Karma refuses to allow a reunion until karmic debts are paid.  In all of my spell work I begin by educating my clients on the mechanics of Karma because karmic debt is often a reason why a spell will not work or not work completely.

I teach my people to think of Karma as a bank. And, like a bank if a “Karmic Account” is overdrawn during a working then there are “fees and penalties.”  The best way to remedy this imbalance is to continue to make “Karmic Deposits” BEFORE a work is attempted.  I often suggest that my clients do random acts of kindness, donate clothes and food to the poor, help a stranger unconditionally, volunteer at a children’s hospital, etc … and dedicate those acts of charity to whatever deity or energy we are asking for assistance.

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Although the magick that I teach is non-secular  (Magick Lab Academy), I personally work with Angels and Devas because these are the energies that I connect to the most. When working on Love I often connect to the Hindu Goddess of Love AND Devotion (Parvati) and the ArchAngels Gabriel (the Moon/Messenger) and Hanael the ArchAngel of Love. Raphael is likewise the ArchAngel of Happy Meetings and Happy Marriages.  In every work I seek to balance the energies of the Divine Masculine and the Divine Feminine in order to effect a significant change.  In my experience Love is an energy that needs to be nurtured like a seed on it’s way into blossoming into a flower.

But, before any work is done Karma must be addressed so we can see what sort of measurable effects can be expected without any major “Karmic Blowback.”  My solution to this is to ask my clients to write a list of everything that they want in a partner. Next, anything on that list that they cannot give to a partner themselves they have to cross off.  The basis for this is that you cannot ask for anything that you cannot give. Many of you will recognize this from “The Law of Attraction.” Once this list is completed and incorporated into the spell along with reasonable “Karmic Deposits” then and only then can a love spell be worked to it’s maximum potential.

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Magick is an energetic “messenger” and in love these messages can and should be delivered straight to the heart. The issue I have with forcing someone to love against their will is a violation of their freedom of choice. Instead I encourage my clients to leave the option to “choose” open in order to spare themselves the Karmic Debt incurred by violating someone’s free will.  In most cases a message of Love delivered to the heart with heart felt sincerity is enough to produce the desired results.  I do not encourage anyone to force the situation, but to make themselves more lovable which is the better way.

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Mercury RX Heads Up: 12/24th – 12/26th – Christmas is Merry – SUPRISE – Uranus/Jupiter/Saturn/Venus

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Big Daddy Jupiter wines and dines your Uncle Uranus and your picky Aunt Saturn. Thank Goddess, your lovely mom or favorite Aunt Venus is getting them drunk under the tree so everyone is getting along for a change.

Reunions, even among dysfunctional families, are surprisingly harmonious.   This is the “Christmas Miracle.”

Conversations are actually productive even though they are unconventional so let the eggnog flow and be liberal with the booze. Keep in mind that there will be some things that make no sense, but enjoy the fact that everyone is getting along for a change.  This is an opportune time to mend fences, bury hatchets and apologize. Who knew?

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Mercury Retrograde Hack: Chanting to Saraswati

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This Mercury Retrograde I am doing a mala (108 repetitions counted on a strand of beads or rosary) to Saraswati every day.  In my experience as a Kashmir Shaivist both masculine and feminine energy must be present in order to achieve a desired effect.  I being by chanting 108 repetitions of the Mantra to Lord Ganesha. AUM GUM GANAPATAYE NAMAHA.

Masculine (Grounding):

elephant-1316908_640Ganesha, son of Shiva (the Destroyer) and Parvati (Shakti or Divine Feminine aspect that rules Love and Devotion) is the “Remover of Obstacles.” While some Western Traditions correspond Ganesha with the planet Mercury, Ganesha in fact rules Ketu (the South Node of the Moon) so he is not influenced by planetary transits. Hence, he is immune to the Mercury Retrograde. He is chanted to first in order to “open the doors” to the Gods.

Feminine (Active Energy):

Saraswati, the Goddess of Wisdom, Music and the Arts is also linked to Mercury in that she also rule Vak, which is another word for “Divine Speech.” She is important to me because “Divine Speech” is essential to proper channeling and psychic readings, etc … As a writer and a singer, Saraswati has been in  my subconscious and conscious from a very early age. So, while Western Tradition put an emphasis on Venus (for the Arts) and Athena (Wisdom) we can see that these two energies are almost contrasted since Venus and Athena are polar opposites. In contrast Saraswati embodies all these qualities and for me embodies are more balanced, well rounded, cultured woman.

A popular beej manta for Saraswati is:  AUM SHREEM HREEM SARASWATI NAMAHA.

Both mantras said in sequence with the Masculine first (grounding) and the Feminine next (Active Energy) make a complete “circuit.”

I have found that this lessens the worst aspects of Mercury Retrograde making possible disasters into minor mishaps. If you are a creative person, writer, artist, musician, actor or dancer, Saraswati and her energy should resonate very well with you.

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Blast from the Past – Love Spells -Because it’s Witchy Weds. – From “Secret Life of the American Witch

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WITCHY WEDNESDAY: LOVE SPELLS

BY KALLAN KENNEDY 

Valentine’s Day is soon upon us. Every Witch I know is going to get bombarded with the love spell requests.   Jiminy Cricket once said, “A dream is a wish your heart makes.” A spell is very much the same, but with more focus and intent. Like dreams, spells are only good or evil according to the moral compass of the caster. Hence, the reason why most Witches won’t do them.

By ‘them’, I’m talking about spells that manipulate the will of another person. There are all kinds of self-love, beauty, and “attract-love” spells out there. Those are usually ones that a Witch will share. Most of us Witches want you to feel good about you, to find love and happiness in your life, and to be at peace. Now, that’s not to say there aren’t some folks who won’t cater to the lonely hearts club members. I’m not judging. That’s on the caster and his/her ethical code.

I love looking at old spells. I am fascinated by history and human nature. I love to explore the motivations of others and study their creativity. If you’re like me, I highly recommend “The Encyclopedia of 5,000 Spells” by Judika Illes. She really did her research for the book. It’s even now in Kindle format!

My friend Marie Bargas, aka “The Hollywood Witch” was invited to guest blog for the popular “LA-Story.com” site on Love Spells. She’s posted some really popular ones, and always does great research. (Please visit my new site HERE.)

Check it out here: http://la-story.com/2015/02/top-10-love-spells-for-valentines-day-curated-by-the-hollywood-witch-guestblog/

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Love spells aren’t inherently bad. The whole idea of “good” and “evil” is relative. At one point in human history, pedophilia was part of the normal culture. At one time, it was okay to murder in the name of one’s god (and in some places, it’s still encouraged!).  If you really feel the need to cast a spell (or have someone do it for you) to make someone fall in love with you, that says more about you than them.

I recommend falling in love with you, first. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself that you are “alone” on Valentine’s Day, how about being thrilled that you are alive and that you are someone special who doesn’t need another person to love him/her in order to be complete? It’s true that like attracts like. When you can fully love yourself for all you are, you’ll find that other people want to be around you. They want to bask in your glow. If Valentine’s Day is important to you, then pamper yourself instead. Buy yourself flowers. Write yourself a love poem. Romance you this weekend. That’s the best love spell I can recommend.

Happy Casting!

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Mars Goes Direct – The Stress of His Regard – Victim Shaming

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Little did I know that when Mars went retrograde on April 18 at 4.14am PDT, 7.15am EDT, 12.14pm BST and 9.14pm AEST that my triple Libra sensibilities were going to be tested to the extent that I could either rise … or self-destruct because although Mars is traditionally Venus’ adulterous lover who adores her. But, when in retrograde he can and does tend to brutalize her in retribution for not being able to completely “have” her. As you will see from my account of this time, it was certainly a passive aggressive dance of erotic attraction being punished by shame and the whips & chains of domination as balm for rejection of the mystic masculine that is not “divine,” but twisted, insecure and sexually rejected for being so damn weak. Cruelty is what was offered as replacement for a lack of virility. And the outcome had a make or break quality that could have made me a professional victim, a damaged survivor or something more … a wise woman of the world.

It all started with the break-up of my 8 year relationship. Needless to say we had outgrown each other. After a year of literally no sex replaced by his sporadic threats of suicide, I tried to exit gracefully and failed utterly. You see I have a settlement from a car accident that is about to be paid and he was going to attach a lawsuit to that … until he was advised that he couldn’t. Then he went on to complain about an estimated $40,000 that he had spent on me over the course of 8 years. Um … when that broke down to $13.00 a day (including pussy) he backed off on that track, but not until it was pointed out to him that his peers were laughing at him behind his back. Finally, he has resorted to blaming me for “bankrupting” him with my expensive tastes. Really? $40,000 over 8 years is far less than what I would have garnered had I been a real “gold digger.” I am definitely NOT a gold digger because I WAS messing with a broke nigga. LOL

Next, a supposed “friend” could not keep himself from grabbing at my breasts and trying to stick his hand down my pants during a “moving” day when I was clad in sweats trying to pack boxes. He came to my rescue after he had heard of my break-up and proceeded to try to have sex with me in the back of his car because he assumed that after a year of celibacy he was doing me a favor. It gets worse. After trying to “feel me up” during the move he went after a girl friend of mine that he drove home. She thought she was safe with him because she’s pushing 60. Instead, he tried the same things on her and then turned around and told us that we would NEVER be believed because we weren’t credible because we were psychics and women of color. Reality Check: why would I be even remotely interested in a man who was still living with his parents and could offer me nothing more than sex in the back of the car that his mother gave him?  I am single again, but I’m not desperate.

Right after that, I got served with an order to appear at a hearing in which a gay woman whose advances I have been rejecting for years, was trying to convince a court to slap a restraining on me for harassing her and literally trying to steal her Frisian horse and stuff it in the back of my ’98 Toyota Corolla. That got thrown out for insufficient evidence after an LA Superior Court Judge read her evidence and found it lacking in sufficient proof and comical to boot.  The court clerks who recorded the initial filing told me that they laughed about this particular hearing for days. After the judge dismissed all her allegations her final knife throw was that she did not like anyone contacting her PSYCHIATRIST which had the same effect as the magick word ABRACADABRA. Hint: if you are leveling ridiculous allegations at innocent people, do not protest that you don’t want anybody contacting your psychiatrist. It doesn’t help your case. And, if you are going to write defamatory blogs on me because they are a lot less expensive than paying for an attorney because no attorney is going to argue your bullshit for free, if it at all, then at least do a grammar and spell check and try to come up with a blog that looks like it’s from 2016 and not 2006, when you obviously peaked before you went into a decline that by all accounts sees you circling the drain.

Meanwhile, a black magick magician from India who so graciously offered to destroy my enemies during this time took umbrage at the fact that I refused to send him daily photographs of my vagina along with a sampling of my pubic  hairs for him to use in his “protection” magick. My refusal to do any of that caused him to threaten to curse me. Seeing as how he did not manage to stop me from being “felt up” or having to suffer the barrage of defamatory blogs from the nut case with the horse, I did not think that I was in any immediate danger, so I blocked and deleted him. I think that if I had come out of June with thousands of dollars and had watched my enemies explode like super novas I would have been impressed and feared him, but today… not so much.

Next, a black man posing as a lesbian bisexual woman on SKYPE offered me free Skype time on his bi-curious SKYPE account. When I told him/her I was NOT interested he called me a bitch.  Oh dear, after all that I’d already been through that didn’t even register as a pin prick.

Finally, this morning when I posted my relief at Mars going direct I was accused of being a Venus“man hater” by someone who I enlightened with a small sampling of my back story. Men don’t realize how much the ordinary woman suffers just for being … alive. Really. They have no idea. But as a writer, giving you an entire account of my particular journey is my way of therapeutically exorcising the remaining energy of this time which I hope not to experience again for at least another two years when the next Mars retrograde comes around. Phew.

Here are my suggestions for surviving and thriving through an onslaught such as this:

  1. Recognize victim shaming for what it is. Do not accept the burden that you did something wrong no matter what anyone says.
  2. Be accountable for the things that you did, not what people think that you did. For example, if you are attractive because you work out and watch your weight being attacked for that is ridiculous. Being attractive does not mean that you want negative attention. It means that you are taking care of yourself and predators are attracted to that.
  3. Keep things in perspective. Just because it appears that everyone agrees with your enemies it does not mean that they really do. Being strong and holding your ground and keeping your self-esteem intact is the best way to weather the storm. The truth always comes out eventually.
  4. Do not allow yourself to fall into a depression. Do things that you enjoy. Stimulate your imagination in positive ways. Keep learning.
  5. Respect your emotions and express them. Cry when you have to. Laugh just because you enjoy the pleasure and relief of that feeling. Allow yourself to have joy even in your darkest hours. And love as much as you can, even if it appears that love eludes you because love is the best cure of all.
  6. If you are part of a community of psychics, healers and mystics don’t be afraid to ask for assistance, for help, encouragement and empowerment.
  7. Allow yourself to accept love from the right places: your friends, your pets, your colleagues and kind strangers who are paying it forward and not looking to use you.

 

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11:00 pm – 3:30 pm

Call 310.399.7070

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Or you can contact me directly at:

MarieisMagick@gmail.com

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