Empath’s Guide to Sanity 2017

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From the Merriam Webster Dictionary:

Empathy

2:     the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner; also :  the capacity for this

The Basics

  • Every living thing is empathic to some extent because empathy is one of the oldest forms of non-verbal communication. Scientists speculate that humans or “Homo Erectus” started talking about 100,000 years ago, but they can’t decide if language began as soon as the human brain became big enough, or if it developed slowly over time.
  • If you have a pet chances are that you have developed better empathic skills than the typical non-pet owner because animals are better empaths than humans and pets have a tendency to “teach” their owners a thing or two.
  • You are most empathic when you are a baby before you say your first words. The ability then fades because language is used as a replacement but it does not go away and it can be enhanced through meditation.
  • People who have a connection to plants and nature also tend to be more empathic.  While some literally “talk” to their plants to help them grow, others naturally give their plants energy and attention and the difference in plant growth is tangible.
  • Psychics and mediums can be painfully empathic as a side effect of their ability to communicate with disembodied spirits, elementals, angels, demons, fairies, etc …

The Challenges

While the ability to communicate non-verbally with everything can be a gift, the inability to “turn it off” at will can be maddening and at the very least uncomfortable. In my case I was already super tense after the volleys between Trump and Kim Jong Un that I had a persistent ache in the pit of my stomach. But after the riots in Charlottesville I literally felt like I was about to throw up for days. I felt the hodge podge of fear, despair and rage in waves and I had to force myself to not look at the news. Meanwhile, places that had large concentrations of people like the grocery store, Walmart, or the mall were stricly off limits until things settled down on the surface.

Feeling Overwhelmed:  Feelings of being overcome or overwhelmed literally came out of the blue. News sites showed me what I was reacting to and that helped me sort out my true feelings from what emotions I was being bombarded with.

Upset Stomach:  The stomach is where most people carry their emotions. It is no coincidence that we call our most important feelings as “a gut feeling.” My gut was suffering under the weight of the public emotional outpouring of reactions to a possible nuclear war and the threat of rampant racism.

Nausea: As tensions mounted I literally felt like I was having chronic morning sickness. It took a day for me to get over feeling like I wanted to vomit every hour.

Anxiety and Depression: As a result of a combination of all the symptoms mentioned above, I began to get anxious and depressed.

Chronic Fatigue: My body reacted by slowing down and the best medicine for me was to nap for hours in order to “make it go away” because in sleep and through dreams I was able to release a lot of psychic tension.

Sharing What I’ve Learned

Just as the madness was breaking out on the newsfeeds I saw a lot of ads for classes and I was astonished at the amount of woo and silliness people were trying to push on suffering empaths around the globe. So, I decided that I would freely share what I do from day to day to cope with the chaos.

Coping Measures

  • Feeling Overwhelmed/Grounding: I am fortunate to live in a pretty little witchy house at the foot of the mountains. Every morning before I water my little potted patio garden filled with herbs and roses I take off my shoes. I spend a lot of my time barefoot in the garden which allows my tension to be released through the bottoms of my feet. I refocus my attention on my plants and ask them to take away my tension. During the worst times I put my hands on my little ficus tree and imagine my energy going down through the trunk of to tree into the Earth.

 

  • Upset Stomach & Nausea/Ginger Everything:  While I wish I had enough time to peel, crush and grind fresh ginger root into a tea every day, I’m far too busy for that. Making fresh ginger tea is a luxury, so I stock up on ginger ale, ginger chews (candy) and ginger snaps (my favorite cookie) so I have something quick and easy to help me calm my stomach and alleviate my nausea.

 

  • My friends and favorite tv shows as well as meditation/Anxiety and Depression:  I meditate and do mantra at least 20 minutes every day. Sometimes I may get lost in it for up to an hour because being in alpha state feels great. However, there is nothing like a convo with a good friend or an episode of “Game of Thrones” to pull me out of a funk. John Oliver has been good for my soul. And frankly, I miss Jon Stewart. Jon Stewart was my comedy shaman who cured all ills.

 

  • Naps and Early Bed Times/Chronic Fatigue: When all else failed I am sooooo grateful to be working primarily from home. I have the luxury of taking a nap whenever I feel the need. When I am working outside of my domestic sanctuary of peace and chocolate I come home with take out, or nuke an organic microwave dinner and drop off to sleep no matter who early it is.

 

Emergency Empath Hacks

  • Wearing Amber and Black Tourmaline jewelry to seal up my aura.
  • Taking cleansing baths in epsom salts and baking soda.
  • Playing my favorite music to raise the vibe and drown out everything else. (Amy Winehouse has saved my life.)

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I Changed My Frequency and It Changed My Life

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For students of metaphysics and meditation frequency and the manipulation and transformation of it are essential to spiritual growth. According to Mind Body Green

There are five major categories of brain waves, each corresponding to different activities. Meditation enables us to move from higher frequency brain waves to lower frequency, which activates different centers in the brain.

I’ve meditated for years, but it was not until a fateful meeting in April that a catalyst entered into my life that forever changed how I applied my studies in mediation and the occult. That wonderful agent provocateur is my close friendtony and writing partner, Tony Sokol.  Coincidentally, or maybe not, we were both into the vampire scene in the 90’s. While Tony was writing and staging the celebrated Vampire Theater in New York, I was Entertainment Tonight’s original “Vampire Expert.” He was kind enough to quote me in his article, “Interview with the Vampire: 40 Years of Remorseful Bloodsuckers” in the pop culture powerhouse DEN OF GEEK.

“Only the genius of a woman exorcising her own demons could have created a vampire rockstar to whom the modern woman would willingly offer her tender throat,” Marie Bargas, aka King, who was the Vampire Expert on Entertainment Tonight in the nineties, said after an impromptu interview. “Akasha’s unbridled madness is an aphrodisiac to Lestat until he is figuratively under her feet and he becomes the Shiva in supplication to her Kali.”

From then on we became “besties” and Tony was continuously encouraging me to do more writing and to come back to the forefront in the media in some way, shape or form. We have since launched our own ezine ENTERTAINMENT 2MORROW. When we met I was being stalked by whack job fraud who I had helped expose as a Stolen Valor. Since then she had sworn to “ruin” me and since she lives off the government she endless amounts of time to do just that. Tony helped me get through that by stressing that creativity is how artists “exorcise our demons” and he was so right.

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I was also in a dead end relationship with a man who threatened suicide on the average of every 3 days FOR A YEAR. Imagine putting up with that. And no amount of meditation and yoga could fix it. It was not until I was inspired by a desire to live a better life that I left that relationship and began a 6 month journey that forced me to move several times.  It was through that journey that meditation and devotion got me through without fear and hopelessness.  The sheer stress shaved pounds off faster than any diet I’ve tried.  Suddenly, I was a pretty woman again. During this time I was extremely fortunate to be working with some of the most gifted psychics and healers in Los Angeles at Mystic Journey Bookstore in Venice, CA.  And so with the combined support of friends and colleagues every day marked and improvement.

Today, I woke up to watch the sun rise while I sipped some fresh French Press coffee which is my elixir of life. My new beau is sleeping peacefully and I’ll be waking him up in a few minutes with coffee in bed. He is a man that I’ve loved for almost 2 decades. During my time in the emotional “wilderness” he came back into my life without all the bullshit that had kept us apart for almost 2 decades. We reunited under the red sun colored by the LA Fires and moved in together on the night of the recent Black Moon. He knows me. He has watched me grow. He has loved me even when he hated me. And we are finally together in a home that is beautiful and secure.

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To all my friends and fans my best advice is that practice and devotion are not enough. Changing yourself and your circumstances raises your vibration and your frequency in unison with your meditation. Do not be afraid to risk everything to get your life back. Sometimes it is the price of living the life you want instead of the life you settle for.

This morning as I prepare to go to the shop to do readings I am confident that whatever problems or crisis my clients may have I am well suited to give them the best advice … because I survived and flourished during my own “Heroine’s Journey.”