Empath’s Guide to Sanity 2017

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From the Merriam Webster Dictionary:

Empathy

2:     the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner; also :  the capacity for this

The Basics

  • Every living thing is empathic to some extent because empathy is one of the oldest forms of non-verbal communication. Scientists speculate that humans or “Homo Erectus” started talking about 100,000 years ago, but they can’t decide if language began as soon as the human brain became big enough, or if it developed slowly over time.
  • If you have a pet chances are that you have developed better empathic skills than the typical non-pet owner because animals are better empaths than humans and pets have a tendency to “teach” their owners a thing or two.
  • You are most empathic when you are a baby before you say your first words. The ability then fades because language is used as a replacement but it does not go away and it can be enhanced through meditation.
  • People who have a connection to plants and nature also tend to be more empathic.  While some literally “talk” to their plants to help them grow, others naturally give their plants energy and attention and the difference in plant growth is tangible.
  • Psychics and mediums can be painfully empathic as a side effect of their ability to communicate with disembodied spirits, elementals, angels, demons, fairies, etc …

The Challenges

While the ability to communicate non-verbally with everything can be a gift, the inability to “turn it off” at will can be maddening and at the very least uncomfortable. In my case I was already super tense after the volleys between Trump and Kim Jong Un that I had a persistent ache in the pit of my stomach. But after the riots in Charlottesville I literally felt like I was about to throw up for days. I felt the hodge podge of fear, despair and rage in waves and I had to force myself to not look at the news. Meanwhile, places that had large concentrations of people like the grocery store, Walmart, or the mall were stricly off limits until things settled down on the surface.

Feeling Overwhelmed:  Feelings of being overcome or overwhelmed literally came out of the blue. News sites showed me what I was reacting to and that helped me sort out my true feelings from what emotions I was being bombarded with.

Upset Stomach:  The stomach is where most people carry their emotions. It is no coincidence that we call our most important feelings as “a gut feeling.” My gut was suffering under the weight of the public emotional outpouring of reactions to a possible nuclear war and the threat of rampant racism.

Nausea: As tensions mounted I literally felt like I was having chronic morning sickness. It took a day for me to get over feeling like I wanted to vomit every hour.

Anxiety and Depression: As a result of a combination of all the symptoms mentioned above, I began to get anxious and depressed.

Chronic Fatigue: My body reacted by slowing down and the best medicine for me was to nap for hours in order to “make it go away” because in sleep and through dreams I was able to release a lot of psychic tension.

Sharing What I’ve Learned

Just as the madness was breaking out on the newsfeeds I saw a lot of ads for classes and I was astonished at the amount of woo and silliness people were trying to push on suffering empaths around the globe. So, I decided that I would freely share what I do from day to day to cope with the chaos.

Coping Measures

  • Feeling Overwhelmed/Grounding: I am fortunate to live in a pretty little witchy house at the foot of the mountains. Every morning before I water my little potted patio garden filled with herbs and roses I take off my shoes. I spend a lot of my time barefoot in the garden which allows my tension to be released through the bottoms of my feet. I refocus my attention on my plants and ask them to take away my tension. During the worst times I put my hands on my little ficus tree and imagine my energy going down through the trunk of to tree into the Earth.

 

  • Upset Stomach & Nausea/Ginger Everything:  While I wish I had enough time to peel, crush and grind fresh ginger root into a tea every day, I’m far too busy for that. Making fresh ginger tea is a luxury, so I stock up on ginger ale, ginger chews (candy) and ginger snaps (my favorite cookie) so I have something quick and easy to help me calm my stomach and alleviate my nausea.

 

  • My friends and favorite tv shows as well as meditation/Anxiety and Depression:  I meditate and do mantra at least 20 minutes every day. Sometimes I may get lost in it for up to an hour because being in alpha state feels great. However, there is nothing like a convo with a good friend or an episode of “Game of Thrones” to pull me out of a funk. John Oliver has been good for my soul. And frankly, I miss Jon Stewart. Jon Stewart was my comedy shaman who cured all ills.

 

  • Naps and Early Bed Times/Chronic Fatigue: When all else failed I am sooooo grateful to be working primarily from home. I have the luxury of taking a nap whenever I feel the need. When I am working outside of my domestic sanctuary of peace and chocolate I come home with take out, or nuke an organic microwave dinner and drop off to sleep no matter who early it is.

 

Emergency Empath Hacks

  • Wearing Amber and Black Tourmaline jewelry to seal up my aura.
  • Taking cleansing baths in epsom salts and baking soda.
  • Playing my favorite music to raise the vibe and drown out everything else. (Amy Winehouse has saved my life.)

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Coping with the Challenges of the Venus Retrograde: It’s not all about Love. Venus is also the Goddess of Cash.

14212004_10154497635930842_4731063091581144274_nAs many of you know, I am a Kashmir Shaivist. My daily practice includes mantra and mediation. Before then I studied various forms of a occultism and witchery and think of myself as a witch when the room demands a “broom.” Venus Retrograde has given me a unique set of challenges because I am a triple Libra, which means that Venus is all over my astrological chart. In preparation I had the pleasure of interviewing astrologer James David Wade – the Pisces Prince, who offered me some very good insights on my weekly radio show  with Tony Sokol , Magick Lab Academy on the SOC Radio Network. He cautioned me that reevaluating my relationships would be bumpy but necessary. Likewise, Venus, the Goddess of Cash Flow would also challenge me to think outside the box in order to maintain the momentum that began with my prediction that “Moonlight” would win best picture on the EXTRA Weekend Edition.

For a Hindu Laxshmi is the “go-to” Goddess of Prosperity and Fortune. After meditating upon her for a time before the Venus Retrograde I was advised to clean up my house from top to bottom in order to get my money mojo back which had been slacking despite the fact that I’ve got at least 7 current stories including Moi on Google News. What I discovered during a 3 day marathon of cleaning is that my puppy, the fabulous Vampire Chihuahua, Fifi, had created a doggy den of iniquity with dirty underwear and pee right underneath my bed! Once I found this energetic black hole in my bedroom the energy shifted and things got back to normal.  When I mentioned this to James he congratulated me on following the advice that he was ready to give me himself, which was clean up – EVERYTHING.

But, cleaning was not enough. Unknown to many people outside Hinduism who worship and invoke Laxshmi, she has an older sister/twin who is also the Goddess of Poverty and Loss. Alaxshmi travels with her sister and on some occasions balances the boon granted by Laxshmi with tragedy that evens the karmic score almost instantaneously. Remember the stories of the Lottery Winners who lose their spouses and eventually all their money through spending and excess?  For me that is a good example of the saying, “The Goddess giveth and the Goddess taketh away.” So, the first thing I did before doing my 3 day marathon cleaning for Laxshmi was erect an outdoor altar to Alaxshmi who in many traditions is Laxshmi’s owl.

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I created this altar for Alaxshmi right outside our front door so that when I invoke Laxshmi her sister has an equally beautiful altar OUTSIDE our house which she can relax and enjoy so that poverty stays outside which prosperity and good fortune come inside to an immaculate place. Alaxshmi likes things that are sour and spicy so I gave her lemons and red chilis. 3 days after I made Alaxshmi her own altar, my little witchy house was booked as a location for  the tv show, “Crime Watch Daily,” and I even got to re-enact the role of Rachel Lee, a master criminal gypsy con artist. Even so, Laxshmi continues to challenge me to push myself far outside of my comfort zone and I now have a new live chat show on the North American Psychic and Paranormal Network.

To read my article in the Bodhi Tree Blog click HERE.

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You see, I foolishly believed that since I’m very happy in my current relationship that the worst part of Venus Retrograde would be deflecting the unwanted advances of an ex or two and sorting out relationship issues. What has emerged is the re-evaluation and restructuring of my business. I no longer do readings at Mystic Journey Bookstore because sadly it now takes me 2 hours to get there in traffic and possibly another 2 1/2 hours to get home. I am also hesitant to join another online psychic talk line because I’m over giving the lion’s share of my earnings over while they “decide” how much of my hard earned money I deserve to get for myself. Meanwhile, I noticed that one psychic line had my photo used on every single one of their promos, but I had unwittingly signed over the rights to my image. So, although my face was the cornerstone of a huge campaign I got nothing … zero … The seasoned PR girl in me was gnashing her teeth at how much I just “gave away.” Today, I am building my business online from my own home studio which I have outfitted with some really good equipment. I make my own promo videos, book my own photo shoots, program my own shows and bank 98% of my take on readings. I have to admit that doing this all on my own is scary right now, but Laxshmi has pushed me towards being more independent and so I bow to her and surrender my fate. Jai Laxshmi. Jai Alaxshmi. Jai Shakti. You have taught me, “Shakti gives no fucks.”

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Managing the Chaos Between 2 Eclipses

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Many of you are experiencing a strange combination of fear and heightened anxiety that began with the penumbral eclipse on February 10, 2017. Eclipses usually signal endings or beginnings and so some of you are in shock as some things, jobs, possessions and relationships have been “taken away.” In the wake of those losses some of you are confused, hurt and in shock. It’s alright. You are not alone. In fact there are more people having the same kinds of experiences. So let go of the idea that these radical changes are happening only to you.

While some astrologers have advised you to focus on more grounding others have recommended that you stay loose and fluid. In my case I have had to ground AND become more flexible depending upon the situation and believe me, there have been several.  The most obvious one is the landfall of the tropical storm – Lucifer.  I live in the Los Angeles area at the base of the mountains.  As the water poured off the mountain and ran down the streets past our tiny cottage in torrents our power and internet flickered off an on like blinking Christmas lights.  Outside trees were being uprooted and toppled like match sticks. Inside me and my chihuahua Fifi weathered the storm by candle light and I caught up with some reading.

What I have discovered is that the best way to manage this chaos is to connect with the element of my astrological sign.  Each sign of the zodiac is governed by an element.

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In my case I am a triple Libra. Libra is governed by the element of air. As the winds outside my window lashed the trees and scattered the rain, I connected with the element of air and put my intent in that element to remove my confusion, doubt and anxiety. Today as the storm has lifted, if only for a few hours, I feel calm, clear and refreshed, like a valley that has had the pollutants in the Air purified by a raging storm. The other air signs are Gemini and Aquarius.

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The water signs: Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces have been experiencing heavy emotional ups and downs. Likewise, if water is featured strongly in your chart you too may be experiencing sudden outbursts of tears or resurfacing emotions that you thought had healed long ago. My advice is to meditate on the image of a calm pool of water. Mastery of the main element connected to you will give you clarity. Remember, the waters in a pond can be murky if the water is stirred, but clear when the water is still and the debris is allowed to sink to the bottom.  Allow your emotional, mental and physical “debris” to sink. Meditation is a great way to do that.

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The fire signs: Leo, Aries and Sagittarius seem to be experiencing trans-formative incidents of sudden clarity about a situation, freedom from situations that bind them and better health. Allow your fires to burn brightly. Fire gives light or “clarity.” Fire burns away trash or debris. Fire can reignite your life force and give you back the vigor that you thought that you may have lost. Like the mythical phoenix, allow yourself to be reborn as you rise from your own ashes. Be more aware of your solar plexus, which correlates to the element of fire and be aware of what you feel in that chakra. If you are suffering from too much heartburn drink plenty of aloe vera juice and watch your diet. The discomfort will pass.

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The earth signs: Virgo, Capricorn and Taurus seem to be experiencing major changes in the material world.  I’m not just talking about wealth and prosperity, but your body itself which is made up of the elements of Mother Earth. For you, remember that the Earth is a fertile planet. Whatever you may have lost can bloom again, in a better and more nourishing “soil” if you take better care of your body, mind and spirit which are the fertile grounds from which your dreams and aspirations can grow and bloom.  Meditation with crystals, any crystals will replace any uncertainty with security.

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I Changed My Frequency and It Changed My Life

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For students of metaphysics and meditation frequency and the manipulation and transformation of it are essential to spiritual growth. According to Mind Body Green

There are five major categories of brain waves, each corresponding to different activities. Meditation enables us to move from higher frequency brain waves to lower frequency, which activates different centers in the brain.

I’ve meditated for years, but it was not until a fateful meeting in April that a catalyst entered into my life that forever changed how I applied my studies in mediation and the occult. That wonderful agent provocateur is my close friendtony and writing partner, Tony Sokol.  Coincidentally, or maybe not, we were both into the vampire scene in the 90’s. While Tony was writing and staging the celebrated Vampire Theater in New York, I was Entertainment Tonight’s original “Vampire Expert.” He was kind enough to quote me in his article, “Interview with the Vampire: 40 Years of Remorseful Bloodsuckers” in the pop culture powerhouse DEN OF GEEK.

“Only the genius of a woman exorcising her own demons could have created a vampire rockstar to whom the modern woman would willingly offer her tender throat,” Marie Bargas, aka King, who was the Vampire Expert on Entertainment Tonight in the nineties, said after an impromptu interview. “Akasha’s unbridled madness is an aphrodisiac to Lestat until he is figuratively under her feet and he becomes the Shiva in supplication to her Kali.”

From then on we became “besties” and Tony was continuously encouraging me to do more writing and to come back to the forefront in the media in some way, shape or form. We have since launched our own ezine ENTERTAINMENT 2MORROW. When we met I was being stalked by whack job fraud who I had helped expose as a Stolen Valor. Since then she had sworn to “ruin” me and since she lives off the government she endless amounts of time to do just that. Tony helped me get through that by stressing that creativity is how artists “exorcise our demons” and he was so right.

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I was also in a dead end relationship with a man who threatened suicide on the average of every 3 days FOR A YEAR. Imagine putting up with that. And no amount of meditation and yoga could fix it. It was not until I was inspired by a desire to live a better life that I left that relationship and began a 6 month journey that forced me to move several times.  It was through that journey that meditation and devotion got me through without fear and hopelessness.  The sheer stress shaved pounds off faster than any diet I’ve tried.  Suddenly, I was a pretty woman again. During this time I was extremely fortunate to be working with some of the most gifted psychics and healers in Los Angeles at Mystic Journey Bookstore in Venice, CA.  And so with the combined support of friends and colleagues every day marked and improvement.

Today, I woke up to watch the sun rise while I sipped some fresh French Press coffee which is my elixir of life. My new beau is sleeping peacefully and I’ll be waking him up in a few minutes with coffee in bed. He is a man that I’ve loved for almost 2 decades. During my time in the emotional “wilderness” he came back into my life without all the bullshit that had kept us apart for almost 2 decades. We reunited under the red sun colored by the LA Fires and moved in together on the night of the recent Black Moon. He knows me. He has watched me grow. He has loved me even when he hated me. And we are finally together in a home that is beautiful and secure.

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To all my friends and fans my best advice is that practice and devotion are not enough. Changing yourself and your circumstances raises your vibration and your frequency in unison with your meditation. Do not be afraid to risk everything to get your life back. Sometimes it is the price of living the life you want instead of the life you settle for.

This morning as I prepare to go to the shop to do readings I am confident that whatever problems or crisis my clients may have I am well suited to give them the best advice … because I survived and flourished during my own “Heroine’s Journey.”